I totally sympathise! When I started out thinking about mapping my world for my book I used Fractal Terrains but couldn't get the landmasses right. Then I switched to Campaign Cartographer 3 and the result didn't feel right, then I started with the Saderan tutorial but again was not satisfied. After that I toyed with doing my map in Ascension's atlas style but picked the antique style in the end. Even then, I had niggling doubts about many elements and then when I look at other maps by torstan or Max I think I wish I could do that. I'm fine with the antique style I've chosen but I really don't think there is a solution. You just have to keep trying until you settle on a look that just feels right and looks reasonably OK, although that's easier said than done.